Hadia's Diary

Feeling deeply about something doesn’t always match others' expectations, and It’s incredibly frustrating, especially when it feels like everyone thinks they know better about how you should handle your emotions. But here’s the reality: unless you’re in my exact situation, you can’t dictate how I should feel. Everyone experiences sensitivity differently. What seems minor to one person can be incredibly painful to another. If it hurts, it hurts—there’s no need for further justification. Consider this: Have you ever had someone tell you, “It’s not that big of a deal,” when you’re clearly upset and struggling. It’s as if your reality is being erased. For us, the pressure to appear strong and unaffected is immense. Social media often shows us a highlight reel of other people's lives, leading us to compare our feelings against others’. But your emotions are valid, no matter how they stack up against someone else’s. Remember that your feelings are yours, and they matter. Think about ...

Have you ever felt like you're too complicated to love?  As we grow older, it becomes clear that none of us are easy to be with. We all carry something—anxiety, past traumas, insecurities, fears. Life is messy, and so are we. Think back to your last relationship. Remember how you tried to hide your anxiety, fearing it would push them away? Or how the scars from your past made you question if you were worthy of love? It’s not about finding someone without these problems; it’s about finding someone willing to unpack alongside you. We often dream of perfect relationships, where everything is smooth and flawless. But let's be real—that person doesn’t exist. Real relationships aren’t about having no problems; they’re about choosing each other, mess and all. Picture this: You’re having a rough day, your insecurities are flaring up, and you’re feeling unlovable. Your partner sits with you, listens, and doesn’t try to fix you. They just hold your hand and say, “I’m here.” Isn’t that wh...

  Ever happened to you? You meet someone and feel an instant connection, like they’re meant to be part of your life. We categorize these relationships as either for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. But what if the lines blur, and the people we thought were lifers turn out to be seasonal or even fleeting reasons? As Gen Z, we grew up in a world of instant gratification and constant connectivity. Our friendships and relationships are often virtual, fleeting, and superficial. We have thousands of social media friends but barely a handful we can count on in real life. We’re a generation that’s always searching for something more, yet often finding ourselves disappointed when people don’t live up to our expectations. Think of a time when you met someone who seemed to appear just when you needed them the most. Maybe it was a friend who helped you through a difficult breakup, only to drift away once you healed. They were there for a specific purpose, and once it was fulfilled, they van...